Posted by Wayne | Friday, June 30, 2006

Friendship, this word has been taken for grant far too many times. When most of us think or speak of friendship, we rob of its rich emotional value. This is partly because we use language loosely. We say that so-and-so is "a friend of mine" when what we mean is that he or she is an acquaintance or an associate or a companion. Aristotle defined friends as "a single soul dwelling in two bodies". Friendship has been exalted by philosopher’s way back as the highest form of relationship people can create. Imagine two people from entirely different worlds, being joined in intimacy and mutual benevolence, independent of sexual or family love. This wonderful gift, as poets would call it, cuts through all boundaries- societal, biological, familial or cultural. Friendship is not institutionalized. Its something two people really create. That’s what makes it more interesting.

What makes a true friend? You laugh and cry together, bail each other out and prop each other up. You cant always put it into words, but you can put it into deeds. Indeed, having a friend gives us such a wonderful feeling. Its almost impossible not to love someone who makes us feel cherished and special. There’s something very therapeutic about a close friendship - revealing yourself to and being understood and accepted by another person. At one time or two, our friends might not have come up to our expectations. But friendship is a matter of give and take in everyway, including all allowances that must be made for each other's lapses. We are obliged by the nature or our relationship to accept our friends as they are, flaws and all. This is good since it teaches us the valuable lesson that even we are not perfect. If a friend with whom we share so many characteristics have many faults, it follows that we must have a few of our own. Loyalty is also one virtue everybody looks for a friend. You can only tell if a person is a real friend if he or she stands by you in times of distress. A true friend sees you through when others see that you are through. One controversial test of loyalty is reputation. Say a friend is charged with a disgraceful crime: Would you insist his innocence at the risk of your reputation in the face of overwhelming evidence to the contrary? Say he is convicted: Would you continue to uphold your friendship no matter what people might say? NO one can keep a friendship alive without practicing consideration. But how do caring friends do that for each other?

Wayne's 5 points that he believes are the glue that holds close friendship together:

- We affirm our friends by taking pleasure in there achievements by sharing their joy, by expressing delight in the good things that happen to them, rather than downplaying their good fortune, being envious or not responding.

- Friends need to express, in words and deeds, their affection for each other - often as possible.

- This is one of the most important things in any form of relationship. You accept a friend's opinions, you may disagree on really important things and you may even argue. But you don’t devalue your friend, or his/her beliefs. You accept his/her ideas and feelings whether you like it or not. Respect also takes the form of sitting patiently with a friend who needs to cry, without saying "that's enough" or "snap out of it".

- This means listening to friend or doing things for him or her even when you have other things to do. It’s giving up something for the other person, so the person feels valued.

- It means listening to a friend's conflicts and dilemmas and being willing to make suggestions, but not being annoyed if he or she doesn't solve his or her problems or take your advice. An emotional supportive friend would say: "I know it’s a difficult decision, and you'll decide when you’re ready. This is what I think I'd do if I were you, but I respect whatever decision you make".

The only way to have a friend is to be one. To be a friend in the classical sense is not easy. There are sacrifices to be made in attempting to raise our friendships to their highest potential state. But the fortunate part of it is that friendship is one of the few human pursuits that make sacrifice a pleasure.

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Posted by Wayne | Thursday, June 29, 2006

Nokia 6630 for cellphone,8764,64766,00.html

Sony Cyber-shot DSC-P150 for digital camera

Apple iPod U2 Special Edition for iPod

Sony Vaio for laptop computer

So, just choose here which one you'll give me as a gift, winks!

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A Curse or A Lesson To Be Learn

Posted by Wayne | Monday, June 26, 2006

Why is it I’m always hurt when it comes to love? Am I cursed? What have I done? When will this end? I believed I’ve been good in my past relationships. Why is it that when I love, people wont love me in return nor love me the same love I showed to them? Is it really true that when "Loving someone can give us the greatest joy we can ever know but it can also hurt us more than we can ever believe. If we love someone we should be ready to experience not only happiness but heartache as well. That's the reward and risk that it takes. Unless we are willing to experience it, we will never really know what it's like to love and be loved?" Damn, please not all the time. I need a break. All I need is a real LOVE, a love that makes me inspired, a no worry life. I want a special someone who I can call my own and be proud with confidence and security. God, is that person alive or unborn yet? Am I asking too much? Just want a REAL LOVE. And am I ugly? I don’t see my parents as ugly or my siblings. No one is ugly, beauty lies from within. I have qualities for sure people can admire. Sometimes it’s hard to find the right person. I always tell myself not to look for love but we all need love, I long for it. Love for parents and friends are different my dear readers. Sigh! Hope that person will come into my life as soon as possible. If you’re there please don’t make me wait. Maybe, the problem behind is me being old-fashioned. My close friends always told me to use my mind in love, but I am so stubborn making me hurt always in the end. Sex is just sex, come on! You can find sex anywhere and anytime, as what other people say, trust me. But sex with love? I don’t think so. So is it my fault to be old-fashioned? Should I stop being conservative to find my special someone? And be open-minded of what our world is having now? Help, anyone? But if I am really destined to be like this, well, God, I have to accept since You are the author of my life. Hence, I will never close my door whoever knocks upon it. God helps those who help themselves, right?

To those people who hurt me, FUCK YOU! You all don’t deserve my love. Anyway, I don’t want to hold grudges since its useless. It will only destruct my happy life. Past is past. Besides, I’ve learned a lot from you all and been part of my life. Thanks for the memories; for sure it will be keep, as I grow old. "In life, dont think about the pain we went thru, but the lesson it taught, not how much we cried and hurt , but how we SMILED and LOVED". Smile Wayne, smile!

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I Am Into Sports?

Posted by Wayne | Monday, June 26, 2006

It has been 3 consecutive Saturdays that I am playing badminton. Wow! I made it and I love it, it's one of my accomplishments now in my life. Badminton for me is not only for physical fitness, quality time for friends or enjoyment but also for diversion of the problem a person has. I still remember my first play, I felt terribly in pain. After the play, I could feel my muscles in sore, winks. I was late at that time so I didn’t had a chance for a warm-up and do some stretching. After the game, I had a work and I couldn’t lift my tumbler to drink water because my hands are trembling, hehehe. I was so slow in computer works especially my report. It became worst on the second day (Sunday), Its like I was attacked violently by a mob. I could not sit down properly since my butt and my hips are in deep pain. I hold things like armchair, tables just for me to stand up. And gawd, I could not walk properly since I could feel my legs in sore. That was terribly bad; I could tell myself if this is sport well goodbye then, winks. But after 4 days all is well. I don’t want to play badminton again but I envied my officemates preparing for the next play. You know as what I have wrote earlier, for me, badminton is not only for physical fitness, for fun, but also for DIVERSION. Maybe my body at that time was adjusting to it first. So, I did join. On the second Saturday, all is well, never felt any pain. See? My body adjusted already to the intense movements of that sport. But had a blister on my left foot since I did not wear socks, all were dirty, ha ha.

Last Saturday was the 3rd session of playing badminton. I was so disappointed when not all of my officemates were there especially my badminton buddy who has the same level of mine, you know who you are, hehe. Most of them who are there are pro when it comes to playing badminton. I was so hesitant to play; I want to go home, huhuhu. I was just sitting down at one of the benches there watching good-looking people, bleh! But damn, one of my bosses called my attention to play doubles, whew. I was so worried I could spoil the game, huhuhu again. But I was wrong I’m not a pro but I did well there. At least there's an improvement. Hope so, hehe.

Anyway, I will continue playing badminton. It makes me sweat in a safe way (don’t think dirty thoughts, hehehe). I also have a plan to buy a bicycle since I love cycling. I love to travel to places I don’t know, meet a lot of people, different walks of life. I tried that kind of life before when I was a marketing assistant at Philip Morris Intl. We do travel almost everyday to have a survey in rural areas, quite fun! I missed that job. Right now, I will priorities my sports activities and save some money to buy some equipment rather than buying my ever since dream tech stuff - cell phone, digital camera, iPod, and a personal computer. I still have lots to do, I love photography and want to go places and take some shoots. I love music too that’s why I crave for iPod and well who needs not a personal computer anyway? I love to learn more stuff about web designing. I have lots lots of things to be done in my life, I love my life and I enjoy it. Wow! What a dream, lots of dream. Keep on dreaming Mr. Wayne, its free. Best things in life are those for free, agree?

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Differences Between LOVE and LIKE

Posted by Wayne | Wednesday, June 21, 2006

In front of the person you love, your heart beats faster
But in front of the person you like , you get happy.

In front of the person you love, winter seems like spring
But in front of the person you like, winter is just a beautiful winter.

If you look into the eyes of the one you love, you blush
But if you look into the eyes of the one you like, you smile.

In front of the person you love, you can' t say everything on your mind
But in front of the person you like, you can.

In front of the person you love, you tend to get shy
But in front of the person you like, you can show your ownself.

Then person you love comes into your mind every 2 minutes.
You can't look straight into the eyes of the one you love
But you can always smile into the eyes of the one you like.

When the one you love is crying, you cry with them
But when the one you like is crying, you end up comforting.

The feeling of love starts from the eye
And the feeling of like starts from the ear.

So if you stop liking a person you used to like
All you need to do is cover your ears,
But if you try to close your eyes
Love turns into a drop of tear and remains in your heart forever after.

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What It Means To Be Poor...

Posted by Wayne | Wednesday, June 21, 2006

One day a father of a very wealthy family took his son on a trip to the country with the firm purpose of showing his son how poor people can be. They spent a couple of days and nights on the farm of what would be considered a very poor family.

On their return from their trip, the father asked his son, "How was the trip?" "It was great, Dad." "Did you see how poor people can be?" the father asked. "Oh Yeah" said the son. "So what did you learn from the trip?" asked the father.

The son answered, "I saw that we have one dog and they had four. We have a pool that reaches to the middle of our garden and they have a creek that has no end. We have imported lanterns in our garden and they have the stars at night. Our patio reaches to the front yard and they have the whole horizon. We have a small piece of land to live on and they have fields that go beyond our sight. We have servants who serve us, but they serve others. We buy our food, but they grow theirs. We have walls around our property to protect us, they have friends
to protect them."

With this the boy's father was speechless. Then his son added, "Thanks dad for showing me how poor we are."

Too many times we forget what we have and concentrate on what we don't have. What is one person's worthless object is another's prize possession. It is all based on one's perspective. Makes you wonder what would happen if we all gave thanks for all the bounty we have, instead of worrying about wanting more. Take joy in all you have, especially your friends.

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Posted by Wayne | Monday, June 19, 2006

Have you ever been in love? But cheated and lied by someone you love? Well, I did experience that. I lived with full of lies. It has been a month and weeks when I met someone whom I think I'll cherish my life with for the rest of my life. That person is nearly perfect for me, well, since no one is perfect I could say the RIGHT one. My life with that person seems so light with full of sparks and inspirations. I'm full of life - smiles, confidence, can do my job efficiently, its so obvious that I'm so happy and enjoy every single day of my life as if there's no tomorrow. I think of that person every hour of my day. The first person that comes into my mind when I wake up and the last person I think of before I sleep. But those days ended when I realized I'm dreaming of a perfect relationship. I have been cheated a lot of times but still forgive the person since I feel love. But can you forgive and forget if you know all of the sudden that person's heart and mind belongs to someone from the first day? Can you still hang-on if you know you live with deceptions? I'm living with someone's shadow, can you handle it?

A good relationship is not a game that we play or an ego trip we take. It is about love and two people. Loving someone can give us the greatest joy we can ever know but it can also hurt us more that we can ever believe. If we love someone we should be ready to experience not only happiness but heartache as well. That's the reward and risk that it takes. Unless we are willing to experience it, we will never really know what it's like to love and be loved.

To that person, do I look like a grocery item to you? But I am not mad at you, after all of the lying and cheating, you probably think that I hold resentment for you but you're wrong because if it wasn't for all that you tried to do I wouldn't know just how capable I am to pull through so I want to say THANK YOU.

And this song is for you, you know who you are...

by : Regine Velasquez

Is it hard to believe im ok
After all its been awhile since u walked away
I'm way past crying
Over u finding someone new

U turned my days into nights
But now i see the light
And this maybe the big surprise to u

But/coz uve made me stronger by breaking my heart
U ended my life and made a better one start
Uve taught me everything from falling in love
To letting go of a lie
Yes uve made me stronger, baby, bye saying goodbye

If u try to believe im not over you
Go ahead, theres nothing wrong with making believe
I know, coz i used to pretend youll come back to me

But time has been such a good friend
Brought me to my senses again
And i have u to thank <>
For setting me free <>

Repeat chorus

Think again
Dont feel sorry for me, my friend
Ooohh....dont u know, im not the one of the losing end **

Rep Chorus 2x

you've made me stronger, baby, by saying goodbye

So now, I am not looking for LOVE, I let LOVE look for me. Its so hard to look for the RIGHT person and expect too much, trust me. But i dont close my door to any opportunity, who wants to be single anyway when theres someone who wants to share there life to you, agree? I know we do have different views about LOVE but as long as we put God in-between truly it will be a life fulfilling career, hehe...To sum up, i have a colorfu life right now eventhough im not materially blessed but i need a special someone whom to cherish my life with. But no fuss, no hurries, LOVE will come along the way at the right place and at the right time, its worth the wait!

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Im into SPORTS?

Posted by Wayne | Monday, June 19, 2006

A sport consists of a physical and mentally competitive activity carried out with a recreational purpose for competition, for self-enjoyment, to attain excellence, for the development of a skill, or some combination of these. A sport has physical activity, side-by-side competition, self-motivation and a scoring system. The difference of purpose is what characterizes sport, combined with the notion of individual (or team) skill or prowess. Badminton is one of the sports people are addicted to nowadays.

Just recently I am into sports - badminton. It was then when my officemates invited me to play with them. At first I was so hesitant to join since I am not into sports. I'd rather choose outdoor activities like hiking, mountain climbing, fishing, and traveling. And besides, I don’t have the equipment for it, but they promised to provide it all for me. So when I got home, I opened the 80 year old, antique, creepy drawers with molds and cobwebs, winks. In it are my sports attire includes my jogging pants, shirts, shoes, headbands, and some weird stuffs, he he. It was hidden there since I stopped getting into sports when I started to work. Before, I love volleyball, cycling, soccer but not a pro just for fun and for sweat drippings. It has been years since I forgotten sports. So at that time, I was so excited. I fitted those sporting apparel of mine that age like my old-loose gartered underwear, ha ha. I let my mother washed what I chose. Then I slept, since I work at night from 10pm - 6am and the activity will be at 5pm. I woke up early at around 1:30pm, gees! Maybe because I am so excited. Then, I am ready. I looked around and go back and forth at the mirror; I looked fine (kind of conceited!). It was my first time to wear shorts and go outside home since I do have chicken legs, please don’t laugh, grrrr! I didn’t wear my jogging pants since its color faded away, not appreciative to look at and add the smell of the mothballs, yikes! My family was stunned especially my father about how I looked like. His son is into sports now and not a geek anymore. Is this the start of a new beginning? How soon is now? Anyway, I leave home with a smile, confidence, and excitement. But gawd! When I arrived at the city proper (since I live very far from the city), traffic was everywhere; it makes my fresh aura into a flower just visited by a bee - dull and gawky. I heard a lot of text messages from my cell phone, "Where are you Mr. Wayne?”, "Are you coming or not?", "We're having fun here now", "If you will not come, expect a total silent treatment from us", huhuhuhu. And that makes me pressured. So what I did I go out from the traffic and walk some miles (just kidding!). In a near distance, where traffic is not acknowledged and registered, winks, I took a taxi even though I don’t have much money. Hey, what the hell, I'm excited, right?

At last, I arrived at the Shuttle Square - it is a big sports complex with lots of court for badminton. It was my first time to get there. Without the taxi driver's mastery of the place, I can't go there by myself. The driver's name is Brad, huh! Brad Pitt? ha ha... What's worst about there is that I don’t know where to get inside...another huhuhu. I went to this corner with lots of people but knowing there not in their sports attire so this is not the entrance, oh my gawd! But I asked one person there; of course I chose the cutest among the rest, bleeeh! And knowing the place I was in is a complex for cock fighting, damn! Do I look like a rooster? hmmmm... And I was piss, lol. People stared at me, gosh, what kind of place is this. Then they told me where to get inside in the sports complex for badminton. Another worst thing, it wasn’t a clear instruction... well never mind telling you what I did, hehehe...ok, ok, ok, I just knocked to this big gate of the complex where no one answered me, damn! ha ha. I looked so stupid. When a woman approached me and asked me what I am doing (I am so embarrassed, I swear), then I rapidly told her everything, madam blah blah blah and there goes some lump in my throat, winks. Then she directed me the right entrance. So I went there and this is it because I saw my officemate very sweaty and a smile as wide as a bridge. When I got there, everything of those worst moments vanished into my mind. I hurriedly borrowed a racket and play badminton without having a warm-up or stretching. So that's another story of what happened next - the cramps, stiff neck, and muscle pain all over my body.

So that’s my first badminton experience for 25 years of my life. Well, thanks to my officemates who forced me to join. I love it so much and decided to do it every Saturday afternoon before my duty with them also of course since we don’t do it for competition but for fun and physical fitness. Well, they are same like me, geek too and beginners, winks but I’m the worst of all, ha ha. "Birds of the same feathers are the same birds", hehehe. And thanks also to Mr. Taxi driver who’s name is Brad and the woman who I didn’t get her name, let's say she's Angelina.

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My Profile

Posted by Wayne | Saturday, June 17, 2006

Hello everyone! I'ts me Wayne and welcome to my first blog...I will post my daily or weekly activities here, including my likes and dislikes, foods, news, electronic gadgets, cars, movies, celebrities, cellphone, travel
or anything thats catches my fancy. For more information about me, please do view my complete profile at Friendster

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What is a Blog?

Posted by Wayne | Saturday, June 17, 2006

What is a blog?

It is an online diary; a personal chronological log of thoughts published on a Web page; also called Weblog, Web log. Typically updated daily, blogs often reflect the personality of the author. The first blogs were known as "online diaries", and started in 1994. The term "weblog" itself was coined by John Barger on 17 December 1997. For more info visit this site :

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